In this series, I'm answering the top questions that highly driven empath women ask about the nervous system. This article covers a pervasive problem that women have when they start working with us. What is healing? What are the signs you are healing from trauma?
You need to read this article if you're doing many practices like mindfulness and journaling, but you're always looking for the next thing that will allow you to heal. By the end, you will know if you are genuinely healing or if you are bypassing your wounds, past trauma, and inner child work.
What does “healing” really mean for highly driven women? And what are the three signs of healing?
Before I dive in, I want to let you know that we are currently offering a free detailed Nervous System Profile.
This is perfect for you if you are experiencing…
- A sense of overwhelm, increased alertness, and underlying anxiety.
- Feeling irritable, overly reactive, easily frustrated.
- Signs of chronic stress or embodied trauma (e.g., sleep problems, hypersensitivity to sounds and smells, pain in the neck and shoulders, back pain, tension.)
Adrenal fatigue is REAL. And healing IS entirely possible without having to give up your life, your dreams, your drive.
Women ask me all the time: How can I tell if I'm genuinely healing? They usually ask this at the beginning of their healing journey before working with us to heal their nervous system. Women often come to us having tried many things. Maybe they have done some mindfulness practices or journaling. Sometimes they have done years of therapy or years of yoga and still cannot see results that stick. They don't experience profound transformation.
So what makes a difference? How can you identify the signs you are healing from trauma?
Our Client's Story of True Healing
We have a client who is a wellness coach. When she came to work with us, she had already done typical stuff like journaling and meditation. But that wasn't healing her past wounds. It wasn't rejuvenating enough to cause any significant effect on her healing. She knew it wasn't profoundly healing. The results were not sticking long enough to cause any real change in her life.
As she started her regulation journey with us, she started seeing how this transitioned into her body. She started seeing a significant change in her body: Her heart rate became more regular, and her vagal tone completely changed in a matter of weeks. That translated into more profound rejuvenation, more groundedness, less emotional reactivity, and completely different energy.
3 Signs You are Healing from Trauma: What Highly Driven Women Know About Healing Their Nervous System
1. Profound Effects on the Body
Your body is letting go of layers and layers of chronic stress and trauma. All these layers of tension are stored in the body at the level of your connective tissue, fascia, and other areas deep inside the body.
To heal, you have to go deep enough to release all these lumps of stored pain. If done in the right way, you might experience some significant sensations and physical discomfort. But slowly, and with the support of an experienced team, you will start to reap the benefits.
You will start notice:
- A better heart rate as you experience a different level of rejuvenation
- Your chronic conditions beginning to ease
- Better performance in sports
- A difference in your body: more sleep, less pain, more pleasure, and more vitality
You will also notice that you are more attuned with how you feel in your body and that you can better integrate your body in everything you do.
2. More Emotional Flexibility and Less Emotional Reactivity
Women say that when they are going through deep healing, they experience a new way of relating to the people around them. Their vagal tone allows them to remain flexible and adaptive through whatever emotional stress they are going through. And they are better able to respond with a new level of resilience.
For example, one of our clients reported being able to laugh at multiple shows that she used to interpret as very serious. They were not previously funny to her. A new level of playfulness and enjoyment are signs of a more flexible nervous system.
This client also went through a recent loss. While the loss still felt heavy, she was able to move through it. This resiliency, this ability to move more flexibly through both joy and pain, is the backbone of a resilient, healed nervous system. This resiliency is at the core of healing and preventing trauma both in yourself and the people around you.
3. Speaking to Yourself in a Different Tone
One of the core elements of a healed nervous system is your vagal tone. The vagus nerve is considered the nerve of compassion. When you start healing, you're going to develop a new way of talking to yourself. You will lend yourself more understanding, more support, more love, less judgment, and less shame. You'll start feeling a sense of belonging and of deep inner peace.
When women go through our protocols and programs, they quickly bring their nervous system from a state of being triggered continuously to a state of regulation. With this healing, it becomes possible to tap into a completely different level of healing and growth.
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